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Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast. Stuart is talking today about a subject you don’t hear much about. It’s an adult subject, so please use discretion when listening or use your headphones! This is episode 169 of our podcast. Listen as Stuart talks about using sex as a weapon or for leverage in the relationship. Have you ever done that? You’d be surprised how many couples do.
Summer is here and we’re all spending more time with our partners and families. Stuart recommends taking couples vacations to spend time and connect with your partner. Work on your relationships and get closer and more connected. Remember how important your intimate life is, and cultivate that.
What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
- The impact on couples who can’t be in the same space together 3:44
- You need to examine your commitment if you feel like leaving your shared space 8:03
- Sex is an essential ingredient to a happy and satisfying relationship 9:20
- If you can be satisfied with having an unhappy partner that’s the beginning of a problem 10:54
- Helping you feel loved should be your partner’s passion 13:15
- We all need to be touched and loved; it’s a part of our emotional connection 15:55
- When you’re taking away your partner’s access to you, your relationship is in trouble 17:27
If you are using sex as a weapon it’s a symptom of a far greater problem. The commitment you make in your relationship is to stay together, stay exclusively sexual with your partner and to keep yourself for them only. If you begin to use that aspect of your relationship as leverage to manipulate the relationship, you’re taking something far more important than sex away from your partner.
The feeling that your partner can’t be trusted or you don’t have them to rely on is one of the most painful and lonely places to be in a relationship. Both of you need to be fully committed to working through your struggles and challenges together- Tough it out. Stay in the same room, keep your physical connection and continue to touch and be intimate with each other so you don’t lose that feeling of emotional security and connection to one another.
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All couples fight
While it may be the last thing you want to do with your partner, couples who fight are not uncommon. Couples can get into a pattern or cycle of fighting and making up. Becoming triggered by the same unresolved issues and the same actions, tone of voice or sarcastic or hurtful speech time and again. Often, couples who fight don’t even see the pattern, it’s just become their life.
It gets worse
No matter how much you love someone, when you lose that emotional connection, resentment, anger and bitterness can take hold. These emotions start to override the feelings of love, respect and closeness you have with your partner. You begin to feel isolated, lonely and sad. You’re feeling the loss of your best friend. Those feelings of security and unity start to fade.
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