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Hi and thanks for joining us for The Couples Expert with your host, Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 154 of our show. This week, Stuart is going to give you a course in arguing with your partner. Not that you should, but everyone does at one time or another. Listen to Arguing 101, a guide to fighting with your partner. Yes, you heard that correctly!

Conflict will come up in daily life for all couples (even The Couples Expert). Stuart describes somethings that came up for him and his wife the other morning and how they worked through it.

Don’t be surprised when this happens to you and your partner. This doesn’t mean you don’t love each other or have a healthy relationship. The indicator of a healthy relationship is the way you resolve the conflicts and use those experiences to move your relationship forward in a loving and connected way.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

  • Fighting is not the issue, it’s about repair 8:25
  • Fights are inevitable but they can improve your relationship 11:58
  • Recognize where the triggers come from 17:59
  • How successful couples do it 21:17
  • Ground rules for arguments from The Couples Expert 23:23

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Next Week on The Couples Expert Podcast

Is the natural progression of your relationship heading towards marriage and family in the future? It may not be. Please join The Couples Expert Next week as he discusses the “what ifs” about relationships. What if I don’t want to get married and have kids? What then? Stuart will give you some great insight on planning for the future of your relationship. Please listen in.

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Do you fight about seemingly trivial issues and escalate them into WWIII? If this is your M.O. as a couple what does it mean for the future of your relationship? All couples fight, that’s just the way it is. Relationship conflicts are a given, but it’s what happens when you’re triggered and what you do and say during and after the fight that makes the difference to the strength and longevity of your relationship.

One of the first things to learn is where the triggers are coming from. If your partner leaves their dirty dishes on the counter and you freak out and a big argument ensues, chances are the fight is not about the dirty dishes.

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